Hey Luxe Babes and Gents
This isn’t going to be a fashion post…I mean, If your reading this…I know you are a true follower…or forgot to unfollow…lol!
DISCLAIMER: This Post may not be the most heavily edited…I’m kinda in my feelings about my life…and Im leaving out a lot…probably TONS of additional information for you to really connect the dots. Im just scratching the surface…not ready to be completely raw…yet. So Forgive my candidness and scatter babbling…but typing this helps turn tragedy into tears and tears to therapy. I need this…more then you ever know.
This is going to be more of a “Lets talk abt the invisible Elephant in the Room” type of post. My Feeling on life…The sadness in mine. My instagram followers know that I try to always be “real” to a certain degree. This is mainly because I see the beauty and the tragedy of what social media can indirectly do to out mental state! Social media is beneficial in a lot of ways…but I can see and have been subjected to its flaws. (Humor and whittness included…not sold separately)
If we don’t consciously exercise our self-awareness muscle, we might never realize how much the, sometimes hours, of mindless scrolling can affect the way we think about ourselves and our lives. There are some of us who think we are too fat, too thin…too short or too tall! Some of that think that they should have been married by now…or have been a mother of at least one child…Or that they have one kid too many, Some of us think that if we are single, we are broken…or that if our home don’t look immaculate 24/7 …we simply don’t and will never have it together!
Some of us think we are so behind the curve in finances if we cant just go to the chanel store and purchase that Buttery Calf skin leather bag we have always dreamed of. But I want you guys to do is take a deep breath and take other peoples lives with a grain of salt. Yes! There are some people out there who literally have saved and worked their ass off to get what they have…and that’s awesome!! Inspiring even! But You will probably never know just the amount of work and sacrifice they put in to get what they have!
But then…there are others, who wear the best of the best…drive the sleekest cars…live in the poshest of neighborhoods and are in debt up to their ears!!
If they loos their job…ISSA WRAP! And the Jone’s aren’t handing out personal loans to help us out when our finances are going down the drain!
I lived out of my means for a long while. Now, I wasn’t out here on my way less then 6 Figure Salary buying Audi’s and dropping thousands on Chanel bags and eating lobster and caviar as a Bi-Weekly treat. But I was using credit cards to create a life I wanted in order to feel “Normal”. It is indeed…toxic.
You see…My normal was not being “Extra” all the time, It was being able to buy extras when I wanted them and not having to be drilling down my checking account to see if I could afford it. It started out (Post buying my home 3 years ago” Purchasing (Charging) and paying off every month. Then I became Lax…The payments got lower (Less then the Balance) and the Balances became higher, Life slooooooowly creeped up on me.
Long story short…I could no longer breathe anymore. I got anxious when the phone rang…or I checked my mail. It was hard…tons of tears and a LOT of me hiding…because I could not let my family know how I screwed up. I could never reach out to them and ask for a bail out…not prideful…its just not a thing with my family. We have an unspoken “Dont talk abt out unless its critical” clause… And it would never be criticle enough for me too seek help from them (Other then the little advice from my Sister and BIL…but that’s it) I’m NOT here to give financial advice on what to do…BUT I will say that the feeling of Financial suffocation is an Awful, emotional feeling. Am I completely healed of this demon? I would love to say yes…but I know I’m not. I’m a little more cautious. I use my Debit card for most things these days…but I still have that overspending bug. So I have to reel it in when I feel out of control. Its like a eating disorder…but with money!
The same goes for my relationships….my Weight…my feelings of insecurity and “Will I Always be alone???”. We ALL have things that we are feeling that weighs on us. I know I have some depression…and anxiety. I HATE the weight i’m at…yet I’m tired of dieting. I wish I was “Body Positive” and Fat and Happy!” BUT IM NOT. I don’t Love my body at this weight…and neither do I feel Healthy at this weight (Which is the #1 thing I want to do…feel better!) It’s a thing! An in the Plus-Size community, I feel like we lack HONEST conversations about what we are accepting in our lives. (And Im NOT speaking to people who have legit medical illnesses and such…or who TRUELY just like being heavy…and that is Far and few…weather we want to admit it or not. At least im honest with myself!
“Your Soooo Pretty Stephanie! I cant believe you dont at least have a boyfriend!?!!?” I’m an introvert who just wants to be with someone who like to chill at home…or snuggle on roof tops across atlanta! LOL! (Do Yall realize how hard that is to find?? LOL!) To be blatantly honest…I’m not sure I am at the right place in my Mental health to allow someone in my space to love me! Would I believe “him” if he complimented me? Is he really interested in getting to know me or is he just trying to hit it? (Yes…at 40…this is still a thing!” . Will he truly accept all of me (In my John Legend voice) and all my flaws?? I secretly done even believe John Legends words…cause Crissy is a whole snack and her flaws would be my “After” even after baring 2 children and aging! Im just being real…lmao! (And I Love Crissy T! IJS!)
So to get to the point of the point of the point…Everyone’s story isn’t what you think. Social media…your co-workers and your neighbors…don’t always believe what you see or hear! I mean…some of your friends are out here renting MK Bags from rent-a center! Did you know that was a thing? Yeah…your welcome. (And if they are renting MK Bags…they are WAY behind SIS! If imma go broke or rent a bag…It’s gonna read Chanel, Hermes or Bottega… SOMETHING of substance! lol!
I often sit and Cry (I told yall I had bouts of depression) abt all the mistakes I made…the reflection in the mirror…the thought about loosing what little looks I had left after turning 40. And although I know it isn’t the healthiest way of coping…its ok to cry sometimes. I know yall want me to plus in 73 motivational quotes about how you are a boss, how you are a strong (Insert whatever you identify with…) woman, and how you need to create the life you want!! But I’m not going to. Although having mantras are not a bad idea… faith without work is DEAD. Some of the work includes sharing so your fellow woman does not feel alone…being REAL sometimes…not only sharing the highlight REEL (See what I did there? :::Eye Wink::) , and working on YOU at your own pace.
Love you guys…whoever takes the time to read this…you are the best.
Hey Luxe Babes!
September 23rd was the first day of Autumn and in Atlanta we have lows of 63 degrees and highs of 94 IN THE SAME DAY!!!! (Insert hand clap emojis!) So I know some of you ladies and gents are prepping for Fall, but still feeling the heat! This wont be a super long post, but I want to show you 3 Fall transition dresses from BOOHOO that are GREAT for this warm “Fall” weather, and will having you look the part AND still be weather appropriate!
My First look is this Versace print inspired Chain Printed Shirt Dress ! It is such a Hot Girl Fall look…its both Edgy and Glam and I LOVE IT!!! This shirt dress could easily wear it as a topper for a pair of Leather leggings or even a pair of wide-leg trousers or jeans! Add a tank top or even a belt to complete the look! I Love a piece you can wear Multiple ways! (If you want me to style this more ways, comment below! I Paired it with a pair of Red Vince Camuto Healed sandals (QVC I think…) and a Red Ralph Lauren Cross body (Marshalls)!
The Second look is a nod to Parisian fashion, and this just happens too be Paris Fashion week! I can totally see me walking the streets of Paris, looking for the next spot to eat a buttery Croissant! LOL! So, This ruffled wrap dress is in a super cute forest green and has white polka dots! Its called the Spotty Wrap Skater Dress), and INDEED it shows a little leg! I paired this dress with a Italian Bag from Marshalls. A Golden Yellow Beret from JustFAB ( <<Click here for a discount on your first order) I also wore a cute pair of White Loafers from Poshmark! I love the Mood this look gives and its comfortable and easy! When it cools down, pair this look with a pair if Tan or brown over the knee boots and maybe a Tan poncho or a classic trench!
The 3rd look was this SUPER pretty and feminine Floral Satin ruffle wrap dress! I felt amazing in this dress! I always suggest having a go-to wrap style dress for every season! You WONT be dissapointed! This dress hit my curves in just the right way. I Paired this dress with a pair of SUPER CUTE White booties from :::GASP::: Walmart Time @ True! Walmart is KILLING the Fashion game lately! I think I will find a dope pair of Earth-toned snake-print boots and a leather jacket to pull this look together for colder weather!
Thank You for stopping by today! What was your favorite dress from BooHoo? Comment below!
I think I honestly cant decide! Each on has such a different vibe!
And as always! Stay Beautifully You!
Photographer: Russell Gilliam from Ingenious Images (He’s Awesome! Check him out!
Hello Dolls and Gents!!
So! Those who know me, or have scrolled through my Instagram, knows that I have a mild obsession with leopard print! Its funny, I always pick on my girl Rhonda (from www.LifeByRhonda.com ) about her obsession with this print, but secretly I’m celebrating the fact that I have a friend who knows that this print is CLASSIC AND WILL NEVER DIE!!! :::insert hand clapping emogies ::: LOL!
Anyway! I was in Walmart making a quick purchase before work…and when I mean quick, I mean I was going to be late for work if it took more then 10 mins! As I dashed through the store to grab my item, in the corner of my eye…I saw a dress! I was like OK WALLY WORLD! THIS WILL BE A LOOK!! Dammit Stephanie!!! Focus!! I had to go!
Long story short: I went to Walmart after I got off that night and thank God they had my Size! It was late….so all I needed it to do is Fit! Its Did and now here to show you about this dress!
The Dress is from Time and Tru and is in the iconic leopard print! It has a peasant Boho feel and is super transitional! You can wear this dress now into winter with no problem! So great fro warm days and cool nights!! Let me shut up and show you the dress!!!
I immediately knew i wanted a Rocker Chic vibe when styling this dress! I paired the dress with the “Jenna” Studded bootie from JustFab, my Suede Fringe bag from Vince Camuto and a simple quilted watch I picked up from Burlington (Listen… I needed a watch I could wear to work and I wouldn’t hurt anyone if it got damaged…IJS) Oh! And bog ole round shades! I have no idea where they are from…Im Assuming Target…cause I have officially forwarded my mail there…lmao! #PostOfficeDeclined
I love pairing a studded bootie to toughen up a look! It just compliments the leopard print…and the fringe gives it a rock star vibe! A Leather Moto jacket would look BOMB with this look in the colder months! Add some tights and some knee-high or combat boots would look perfect!
To soften the look…add a feminine cross-body bag or a tote, a pair a fabric-upper pair of Over-the-knee/Thigh High boots and a long, soft Tan Cardigan!
If you guys want me to do a look-book on ways to style this dress, let me know in the comments below!
Thank you guys for checking out my new favorite dress! LOL! It’s super versatile and makes an awesome transitional piece for this Fall! I always tell people not to sleep on Walmart! They often have some cute stuff, specially the Time and Tru Line & Terra and Sky! Oh! I purchased a size XXL and I wear a size 18/20 in Plus. This dress didn’t come in plus, but this definitely shows how somethings you just need to try things on! I will say, if you wear a bra larger then a 40H…Issa no for you dawg! LOL! And my arms barely made the cut! Another fact is..I look better then the Model! The right body and accessories make an outfit hunni!!
Till next time Luxe Babes and Gents!
Hey Luxe Babes! I wanted to pop on the Blog and show you 3 great Denim options from Royalty For Me! The one think they have in common is they all have “Ankle” (Or Hem if you rather) detail! I really don’t want to ramble, So lets get to it!
WOMEN PLUS SIZE ANKLET WITH SIDE LEG ZIPPER
This, By Far was my favorite pair! It the rise was perfect, it had a built in Tummy Control Panel and zipper detail at the ankle! I paired it with that Boohoo Satin Animal print oversized blouse (Which should should be familiar…if not imma need you to check out my previous blog post!) and a pair of fuchsia linen mules from JustFab! This look is perfect for hanging out with the girls and grabbing a bite to eat…and still look chic!
The hem on these jeans are are super edgy and cute! I caution you, these have a lower rise, so make sure your ok with that before ordering! I Paired them with a Tee Shirt from Je T’aime Tee shirt and a Super cute pair of white woven Mules from….wait or it…Walmart! The Linen tie blazer if from Lane Bryant (Purchased at Marshalls for a STEAL! last summer!) and that cute Dasein Patent Faux Leather Barrel Satchel w/ Shoulder Strap that I purchased from Evine Live!
Ok…these have a classic cuff look in a medium rinse. It has mild distressing, which I Love. The Cuff is adjustable, which means you can adjust to whatever look you want…even a straight leg! I paired this look with my “Honey” Tee from Shien and my Lauren Conrad slides Past season from Kohls and that straw bag from walmart. My hair is tied up in a curly messy pony with a colorful scarf that was gifted to me years go, some gold hoops and my famous sunnies (That i wear ALL THE TIME!! so if a sunglass company wants to sponsor me…lets do this!!! LOL!)
Thank you Babes for stopping by! I hope you like my Royalty for Me Picks this month! If you want to see more looks that I have done with them, head over to my Instagram @LuxePlusLifeBlog If you liked any of these styles, please head on over to Royalty For Me’s website, and use the codeh RFM25 to save 25% off your order! (This excludes the $19.99 and under selection)
Till next time dolls!
In all Seriousness
My life has been a tad bit complicated…nothing that I can ever seem to eloquently express.
I, as many people, paint a smile in my face to deal with the day to day. The more I do this I trick myself into thinking…hoping…praying all will be ok.
There are days when anguish covers me and im internally fighting. I OFTEN Laugh to keep from crying.
BOTTOM LINE is that I used to feel bad about feeling my feelings…and very much ashamed to express them. People who don’t know me know me think I have it all together…people whom I allow myself voluranabilty…know that I’m constantly… trying to mend myself.
They think they know all that is there to know, but I find it hard to express my full self. To know what to disclose and what is not worth it…because they wouldn’t understand anyway…right?
These things make you feel crazy!
How dare I struggle with anxiety and stress and OCD AND procrastination/Laziness? And Stephanie…if you know these things are your “issues” …why don’t you just fix them?
Girl..you have a job…your own home…a car…food to eat (sometimes…too much!)
I dont write these words for sympathy…I write these words AS THERAPY…and so my sisters out here know you are not alone!
This is my answer to all the “if you ever need to talk girl!!” End of fluffy conversations that a lot of us clichely add when we depart.
So If you you want to talk…comment below. I’m here with you sis…..NOW!
Stay Luxe…while plus.. and Live Life!
Hello Luxe Babes!
I want to stop in because I never got a chance to share on of my favorite blazer from LOFT! Its is a Navy double breasted blazer that feels so nice on the body. It is sold out, unfortunately, but there is another one in a gorgeous Glen Plaid that is on my list! Ill link it HERE! Let me know if your like these quick “How I Styled” Post? Comment Below!
I Styles it with a tunic-length top from Target. Its the perfect Peek-a-boo length and gives that preppy feel I like!
I wanted to show case a structured DKNY tote to edge it up a bit (linked a Similar style). A statement handbag is in huge demand this Fall, but it dose not have to break the budget! Purchase what best suits your budget…just take a look at whats trending and be inspired by that look. The DKNY Logo on a tote bag gives the perfect balance of Sporty and chic! I also added simple pair of Heals from Just Fab. Classic pumps are ALWAYS in style! Being CLASSIC is always in style too! Don’t let Fast-Fashion tell you otherwise!
As far as small accessories, I added a pair of Sunnies from and a Fabric knotted headband from Target! Statement headbands are POPPING for the fall! The bulkier the better with this trend! Also explore fancy and funky hair clips and pins! Be creative!
I also showed a Flat option with the Rumi Mule in a luxe silk-spun Marigold fabric from Sam Edeman! A statement flat will substitute those times where heals are not an option. Add a pop of color or chose a few pair with over-the-top embellishments such as feathers, fur or rhinestones! Make a statement hunny!!!
Thank you dolls for checking out my quick outfit post! I LOVE a good Blazer for the Fall! I even look forward to doing some thrifting for some menswear blazers! Thank GOD i’m in a new building that isn’t always hot, so I feel comfortable layering with some of the chic Blazers in my collection. I will be mixing in affordable fashion with whats in my closet…NO CLOTHES LEFT BEHIND!! Love You Dolls! :-*
Photographer: Russell Gilliam of Ingenious Images
Hey Luxe Babes!! I Know, I know….Its been a minute. BUT imma spare you the excuses, cause I’M BACK, and Betta then eva! LOL!
Unless you’ve been hiding under a rock, you know that Lane Bryant has launched a collection with Rochelle Johnson from the popular blog BeautiCurve! She has designed some super cute dresses and I just had to get my hands on at least one! I chose the Animal Print Maxi Dress, and I Love it!!! I chose this one because its flattering, Leopard Print is a great timeless neutral, and It simply wont be sitting in my closet! I created 4 looks that would take you through your day! So LegggggGO!
Summer Office Chic!
I wanted to style the dress, which is already work appropriate, but add a pop of color for the Summer time! I Paired it with a Teal Thrifted Lane Bryant Blazer and Lane Bryant Blocked heal sandal. (Alternative pieces are linked!) I think this makes a very chic, professional look! Of course, a simple black pump would work perfectly for a more conservative office! You could even exchange the blazer for a simple cardigan…the options are endless!
Dresses and Sneakers Oh My!
So…I, have not fully jumped on the “Fancy Dress and sneakers” bandwagon. It gives be serious “office mom wears sneakers when she rides the train/bus home” vibes! LOL! But as we progress more into his trend, I think I could jump on board by staying with the more casual, sleek sneaker variety. The bulky sneaker look is not for me! But SIS!! If you like it chunky…DO YOU BOO! My trusty Adidas saved the day! I love the White and Black sporty contrast of the Adidas paired with this flowey animal print frock! And I added a chic fanny pack (From GAP, Poshed from Poshmark) to top this look off! And oh! Don’t forget my Fave Sunnies from Target!
Pass Me my Mimosa! #BrunchReady
Ok…This look is simple, but effective! It’s perfect for brunch with the girls outfit and you know I love some good convo over Brunch!Pass the french toast and Mimosas dahling! LOL! I added a belt to cinch in my waist and a simple pair of Tory Burch Sandals. For a pop of color, I added this tangerine Time and True Circle Straw tote to brighten things up! I Linked the online link, but they had NONE of the colors that were in store, which was tangerine, Black and Tan. Like, Come on Wally World! In tring to share your treasures!!
Summer Dinner and Cocktails on the Roof-top!
So, I literally saved the best for last! I really loved how you can take a great staple piece in your wardrobe and transform it in something new! I Layered ANOTHER Animal print top over the dress. I know…it seems like Animal print overload! BUT the key is SCALE when mixing prints! Im my case, the print itself was very similar. The Leopard Print Blouse from BooHoo had a much larger print, with a touch green that complimented it perfectly! Then I chose a green chunky green heal that pulled that green out of the blouse (Heals no longer available…I linked a similar color from JustFab!) Then..I was like…lets take it up a notch! #CardieBReferance lol! I added another complimentary pop of the color orange! This oh-so-cute Dasein Patent Faux Leather Barrel Satchel from Evine Live was the perfect addition and added a sense of glam and shine! And the Sunnies just simply say Slay SIS! SLAY! This Look makes me want to have drinks at one of Atlanta’s many roof-top restaurants!
Babe!?!? Let’s Talk!
That last look…girl…#IssaLook!!! Ha!!!
Well…I thank you for visiting me today! So girl…you gotta tell me…which outfit is your favorite? If you didn’t get any of the dresses from the Beauti Curve line…girl….RUN!! Rochell put her magical curvy fairy dust on this collection and said “Ok Yall…Get a dress and be GREAT!” lol! The dresses are all flattering in gorgeous prints and silhouettes! You Need one Babe!
Till Next time Luxe Babes!
Well Hello Luxe Babes!
I wanted to drop a few looks for you guys since Valentine’s day is just around the corner! I cented the looks around a closet staple we all have (Or should have…wink Wink!), the Little Black dress! I will refer to this as the “LBD” through out this post So I’m not going to smother you with my witty commentary hugs and my sarcastic kisses Although…I know you like it…lol…Lets get to it! Oh!! And there is a surprise at the end of this post…so keep reading!
First Off…lets talk about this LBD!
The LBD…or shall I say LBS (Little Black Slip) is from Sonsee! They are an awesome company that has mastered the art of comfortable shapewear. They have a vas selection or under garments to suit your everyday needs. I’m even wearing their shapewear under this dress! Lets get back to the dress! Here is a description from the Site:
“A must-have wardrobe essential. This long sleeve slip is made to support your body and every curve with stretch fabric that’s flattering and comfortable…but lightweight fabric that won’t overheat. If you’re a traveller, or need something that works in every climate, make this slip your new best friend. Pair it with tights of any denier, boots or sandals.”
So here is me (A real Body…) in the Slip/dress! I am not what is deemed by society the perfect Plus Size body. I have plenty of roles and a tummy! I do have on the light Shapewear from Sonsee as well. And YES, and there are still some rolls left! BUT this keeps me from “Jiggling” as I move throughout my day! And it’s super Comfy! I’ll also post a pic of those below. Sonsee has everything from Hosery to Day-Bras to Shapewear! Check them out!
Running Morning Errands Cuteness!
Its Valentines Day morning…you have to take the kids to school, run a few errands or just want to run out to grab some coffee. I got you boo! An yes, your LBD can come along for the ride! I decided to layer this look by adding an oversized xersion Long-sleeve Tee that I knotted in the front to take away some of the volume. I topped that off with a dope Camo jacket from JustFab . I accessorized with my Go-to Adidas and my Arcadia Tote.
Casual Lunch with the Girls (Or that guy…)!
So you and the girls decided to go out for lunch (Or your Boo, or just you…Hunni…I don’t know your life!lol!) and you want a casual look that says “Im Edgy but i have a girly romantic side too”. This look will do the trick. Same LBD, I paired it with a pair of sneakers (Sold Out, bur here is a similar pair) from Justfab. The jacket if from Kate and Mallory from Evine (I linked an alternative, since this style is sold out as well!). The Clear CrossBody bag is from JustFab! The inside is a cute clutch I had from awhile back, but if you want to keep your contents hidden (Which I suggest…), I would use cure Makeup bags or clutches that compliment the look your rocking to hold your contents.
I had to bring you a sophisticated look for you guys! I Paired our LBD with a Chic Gray Kimono Sweater from Target (Click HERE for an alternative! I Just bought this a month ago, you might still be able to find it in stores). The Shoes and the clutch are from Just Fab (Alternatives Linked). You will feel put together and chic for your dinner date…and the subtle pops of blush will add just the right touch or romance!
Ok Luxe Babes! Are you ready for a Coupon code!!! I See you Lookin like Yaaaassss!!!
Sonsee* was generous enough to give me a $20.00 off coupon code! YES! $20 off you entire purchase! THAT’S A STILL PEOPLE!! Use the code “LUXE20″ and go an purchase the most comfortable Intimates that are out there! You will feel amazing! CLICK HERE TO START SHOPPING!!!
Comment below and let me know which V-Day look was your Favorite! Remember that you don’t need a Beau… Just DRESS FOR YOU!!
Till Next Time Luxe Babes!
*(Note, this is not a sponsored post, Sonsee was generous to give me a coupon code upon request! Thank you again to Sonsee for your generosity!)
Hi Luxe Babes!
I wanted to share with you a new staple in your wardrobe! They are a pair of Faux Leather Leggings from DivaLux Boutique! These Faux- Leather leggings are such a versatile piece that can take you from a super casual day of running errands, shopping and brunch for those Christmas gifts or a Festive Holiday party! So I’m not going to waist any of your time, and show you 3 ways to wear these leggings that will have your comfortable and ready for the holidays! make sure you read to the end so you can score a sweet Holiday treat!
Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells…Run Errands While we SLAY!!!!
Pair your Faux- Leather leggings with your Favorite hoodie, sneakers and top off with a Luxe looking coat for a effortless athleisure look! I chose my go-to Adidas Hoodie and sneakers. Topped it off with my Lane Bryant coat (Past season…but here’s a pretty alternative!) and a sophisticated “For Business or For Pleasure” bag from ShoeDazzle!
The weather outside is frightful, But Shopping and Brunch is soooo Delightful!
Weather your wrapping up your holiday shopping or having brunch with the girls, these leggings will keep you comfortable and ready for a long day in these streets! I paired them with a pair of Comfort View Flat Over-The Knee Boots, a black tank top and a super Soft Cardigan from Marshall’s! This look was topped off with a gray Jeweled Beret (Borrowed from my girl Rhonda <<<Follow Her! She’s Awesome!!) and same bag! They were the perfect additions to complete this look!
I really CAN SLAY!! Baby It’s cold outside!
Holiday parties are almost inevitable! Don’t want to wear a dress? I got you boo! Pair….yeah you guessed it…the same Faux-Leather leggings with a cute top and some fancy heals or boots for a sleek, sophisticated look! Toss that Diva coat over your shoulders and let the party begin! (Pssstttt!! Top was a past season find from Exquisit Pink Boutique , here is s similar Dress/TOP AND you can save 15% off your purchase with the Code “Lux”) The Green Velvet Bryce Glam Platform are surprisingly past Season BUT THEY BROUGHT THEM BACK FOR THIS SEASON!!! I was Shooketh! LOL! The Lane Bryant coat topped it off!! And the shoes! (Yeah…I have a lot of stuff in my closet Dolls….but you already know that! LOL!
So from errand running realness to Holiday party Slays, these fabulous legging have you covered! Please don’t forget to check out DivaLux for all your DIVA Needs! Visit their site and use a special coupon code “LuxePlus10” and save 10% off your purchase!! SCORE!!! They have lots of pretty dress options for the holidays (And everyday….) as well as separates and accessories!
Meet me in the comments below and tell me what’s your favorite look!!!
Till next time Luxe Babes!
Hi Luxe Babes!
So…it’s that time of year again! We are preparing for Thanksgiving, getting our homes in order, makeing grocery list and checking them twice! Your Guest will come over (Or you will be heading over to someone’s home) and you will eat and be merry! As the evening wraps up, you will wind down and then realize that the next day is Black Friday and YOU HAVE TO GO CHRISTMAS SHOPPING!!! Right? Well…not really.
Times have changed. Years ago, I remember people standing in line at Retailors at 3am, freezing their but offs tring to purchase one of 3 $79.99 TV’s. There are some stores that still use the first come first serve method. It’s very antiquated and becoming rare. The truth is, Black Friday is already in Full effect and the Honey Baked Ham had not even grazed your lips yet!
Bonus Tip off the Rip: Shop Discount Stores FIRST for less traffic!
Now, If you still feel like it’s tradition to hit the streets at 5am but don’t Want to deal with the craziness at the stores, shop discount retailers FIRST, Like Marshalls, TJMaxx, Ross, Burlington and so on. Most of them don’t do Doorbusters or Sales, so people flock to them after they hit the regular department/ Big Box type stores. You get to shop in peace and will be back in bed snackin on a Turkey and Cranberry Sandwich before you know it!
Tip #1: Take Advantage of Online Pre-Black Friday Sales
I Know what your thinking, What if it is cheaper on Black Friday? I Get it. But the truth is, it might not be either. Black Friday is designed to lure you into the stores. There is a chance that that $79.99 TV might sell out very quickly. The concept is, most consumers will adopt a “Well, as long as I’m here…” attitude and take a look around the store anyway an end up making a purchase anyway. THAT’S THE POINT!! THEY GOT YOU SIS!
The Fix: Online Shop (In yo P.Js!)
Make a cup of coffee or Tea…Check your email and subscribe to your Favorite Retailers Email updates (You can always unsubscribe afterwards…BUT who wants to miss a sale?). They will often have Pre-Black Friday Sales that are worth taking advantage of for One reason: AVAILABILITY OF PRODUCT! As a Plus-Size woman, I always fear of my size selling out because I was waiting till the last minute. So play our cards accordingly…if your size sells out on the regular…dont wait till some miraculous Black Friday deal comes out. Bonus Tip: Create/Log in to your accounts on the retailers site. Add Items that you are coveting to your shopping bag. Most retailers will save your cart. Check your cart often. When a Great Deal pops up, your cart will already be loaded and you can just apply your code and Check out! Remember, there are going to be thousands or even millions of customers on the site you will be prepared for site glitches and slowdowns. (That being said….the earlier you shop, the less site traffic you have to deal with!)
Here are a Few Emails I got AS I WAS WRITING THIS BLOG POST!! HURRY! lol!! (Click Photos for Site Links!)
Tip 2: Use Coupon Code Sites
This might seem like a DUH moment, but SO MANY people don’t even know about places like DOSH, Ebates, and Retail Me Not ! There are SOOO many apps out there that can give you all the current coupon codes AND help you recieve cash back on your purchases! I will say that when you use these sites, you may have to apply a few coupon codes to get the best option. Ebates, if added to your internet toolbar, will auto apply all the codes and apply the one with the most savings (If any).
The Fix: Get to downloading Babe!
Take a few minutes (NOW! Your already Late!!) to sign up and download some apps. Also check with your Banks and Credit card companies (Cash App included) to see if they have what I call store “Boosters” that help you earn cash back or get instant savings when you are shopping! I know the Cash App Card, Delta CU has some and AMEX has some awesome stores on their list! Be resourceful!
Tip #3 Stop feeling Obligated!
I am tapping into my own heart right now. I know that man of us feel obligated to take this time to purchase these “Things” at a heavy discount because otherwise, we couldn’t afford it. Well the reality, there are a lot of us who really cant afford to buy everyone a christmas gift, even if it is at a discount. Now, I myself tend to use this time of year to boost up my wardrobe for cold weather (Specially since I’ve gained weight!). I recommend really looking at your budget and seriously think about weather or not you can truly afford to spend money. You begin shopping for one person, then get guilty about not getting another person a gift…and so on. You are not doing yourself a favor buy using money you really cant spare or going into (Or further) into debt to “make someone happy”.
The Fix: Zoom in on the reason for the Season
I first suggest (Its a little too late now…) to plan for your Holiday gift giving. Create a Cash Sink Fund. A Sink Fund is specific Savings for an inevitable specific purchase. You know Christmas is on December 25th EVERY YEAR. You can bet on it! Create a budget and pay towards it early in the year. The Second thing I want you to do is take the amount you saved, create a Gift giving list and assign each person a specific value budget. This does not mean you have to spend every cent in this budget, but it allows you to control your spending. Add Gift Ideas to this budget so that you have options and don’t get overwhelmed. This goes for your kids as well. Now, if you just can’t spend a lot of money, give freshly baked goods, handmade Items, Service Coupons (Babysitting, Organizing, or another skill) or JUST GOOD OLE PLAIN OLD LOVE!! Don’t let anyone ever tell you your love is not enough. If it isn’t, this person simply does not need to be in your life.
The “Wrap” up! (See what I did there…)
I hope these tips help you soothe your Black Friday whoas! Now, I get that if you follow me, you are looking for Style Advice and the go-to places to shop! That’s why I aim to show a variety of places to shop. BUT I wanted to make sure my readers know that we ALL have different budgets and that’s perfectly ok! I encourage you to dig deep…really deep. Offer the gift of Love to your family and friend. Call them more often. Schedule a few Holiday Coffee dates. Cook or Bake for them. Crochet a blanket…make a bracelet…Frame a special photo! Christmas is not about who gives the best physical gift. Its about feeling the warmth and love we feel from Family and Friends.
Special Note: This is also the season of Seasonal Depression…and as this phrase is starting to seem cliche, but PLEASE check on your Strong Friends! People need to feel loved…like they belong. R.I.P to all who took their lives this 2018…and prayers to the people they left behind.
Till Next Time Luxe Babes,