Hey Luxe Babes and Gents
This isn’t going to be a fashion post…I mean, If your reading this…I know you are a true follower…or forgot to unfollow…lol!
DISCLAIMER: This Post may not be the most heavily edited…I’m kinda in my feelings about my life…and Im leaving out a lot…probably TONS of additional information for you to really connect the dots. Im just scratching the surface…not ready to be completely raw…yet. So Forgive my candidness and scatter babbling…but typing this helps turn tragedy into tears and tears to therapy. I need this…more then you ever know.
This is going to be more of a “Lets talk abt the invisible Elephant in the Room” type of post. My Feeling on life…The sadness in mine. My instagram followers know that I try to always be “real” to a certain degree. This is mainly because I see the beauty and the tragedy of what social media can indirectly do to out mental state! Social media is beneficial in a lot of ways…but I can see and have been subjected to its flaws. (Humor and whittness included…not sold separately)
If we don’t consciously exercise our self-awareness muscle, we might never realize how much the, sometimes hours, of mindless scrolling can affect the way we think about ourselves and our lives. There are some of us who think we are too fat, too thin…too short or too tall! Some of that think that they should have been married by now…or have been a mother of at least one child…Or that they have one kid too many, Some of us think that if we are single, we are broken…or that if our home don’t look immaculate 24/7 …we simply don’t and will never have it together!
Some of us think we are so behind the curve in finances if we cant just go to the chanel store and purchase that Buttery Calf skin leather bag we have always dreamed of. But I want you guys to do is take a deep breath and take other peoples lives with a grain of salt. Yes! There are some people out there who literally have saved and worked their ass off to get what they have…and that’s awesome!! Inspiring even! But You will probably never know just the amount of work and sacrifice they put in to get what they have!
But then…there are others, who wear the best of the best…drive the sleekest cars…live in the poshest of neighborhoods and are in debt up to their ears!!
If they loos their job…ISSA WRAP! And the Jone’s aren’t handing out personal loans to help us out when our finances are going down the drain!
I lived out of my means for a long while. Now, I wasn’t out here on my way less then 6 Figure Salary buying Audi’s and dropping thousands on Chanel bags and eating lobster and caviar as a Bi-Weekly treat. But I was using credit cards to create a life I wanted in order to feel “Normal”. It is indeed…toxic.
You see…My normal was not being “Extra” all the time, It was being able to buy extras when I wanted them and not having to be drilling down my checking account to see if I could afford it. It started out (Post buying my home 3 years ago” Purchasing (Charging) and paying off every month. Then I became Lax…The payments got lower (Less then the Balance) and the Balances became higher, Life slooooooowly creeped up on me.
Long story short…I could no longer breathe anymore. I got anxious when the phone rang…or I checked my mail. It was hard…tons of tears and a LOT of me hiding…because I could not let my family know how I screwed up. I could never reach out to them and ask for a bail out…not prideful…its just not a thing with my family. We have an unspoken “Dont talk abt out unless its critical” clause… And it would never be criticle enough for me too seek help from them (Other then the little advice from my Sister and BIL…but that’s it) I’m NOT here to give financial advice on what to do…BUT I will say that the feeling of Financial suffocation is an Awful, emotional feeling. Am I completely healed of this demon? I would love to say yes…but I know I’m not. I’m a little more cautious. I use my Debit card for most things these days…but I still have that overspending bug. So I have to reel it in when I feel out of control. Its like a eating disorder…but with money!
The same goes for my relationships….my Weight…my feelings of insecurity and “Will I Always be alone???”. We ALL have things that we are feeling that weighs on us. I know I have some depression…and anxiety. I HATE the weight i’m at…yet I’m tired of dieting. I wish I was “Body Positive” and Fat and Happy!” BUT IM NOT. I don’t Love my body at this weight…and neither do I feel Healthy at this weight (Which is the #1 thing I want to do…feel better!) It’s a thing! An in the Plus-Size community, I feel like we lack HONEST conversations about what we are accepting in our lives. (And Im NOT speaking to people who have legit medical illnesses and such…or who TRUELY just like being heavy…and that is Far and few…weather we want to admit it or not. At least im honest with myself!
“Your Soooo Pretty Stephanie! I cant believe you dont at least have a boyfriend!?!!?” I’m an introvert who just wants to be with someone who like to chill at home…or snuggle on roof tops across atlanta! LOL! (Do Yall realize how hard that is to find?? LOL!) To be blatantly honest…I’m not sure I am at the right place in my Mental health to allow someone in my space to love me! Would I believe “him” if he complimented me? Is he really interested in getting to know me or is he just trying to hit it? (Yes…at 40…this is still a thing!” . Will he truly accept all of me (In my John Legend voice) and all my flaws?? I secretly done even believe John Legends words…cause Crissy is a whole snack and her flaws would be my “After” even after baring 2 children and aging! Im just being real…lmao! (And I Love Crissy T! IJS!)
So to get to the point of the point of the point…Everyone’s story isn’t what you think. Social media…your co-workers and your neighbors…don’t always believe what you see or hear! I mean…some of your friends are out here renting MK Bags from rent-a center! Did you know that was a thing? Yeah…your welcome. (And if they are renting MK Bags…they are WAY behind SIS! If imma go broke or rent a bag…It’s gonna read Chanel, Hermes or Bottega… SOMETHING of substance! lol!
I often sit and Cry (I told yall I had bouts of depression) abt all the mistakes I made…the reflection in the mirror…the thought about loosing what little looks I had left after turning 40. And although I know it isn’t the healthiest way of coping…its ok to cry sometimes. I know yall want me to plus in 73 motivational quotes about how you are a boss, how you are a strong (Insert whatever you identify with…) woman, and how you need to create the life you want!! But I’m not going to. Although having mantras are not a bad idea… faith without work is DEAD. Some of the work includes sharing so your fellow woman does not feel alone…being REAL sometimes…not only sharing the highlight REEL (See what I did there? :::Eye Wink::) , and working on YOU at your own pace.
Love you guys…whoever takes the time to read this…you are the best.
Hello Luxe Babes!
I want to stop in because I never got a chance to share on of my favorite blazer from LOFT! Its is a Navy double breasted blazer that feels so nice on the body. It is sold out, unfortunately, but there is another one in a gorgeous Glen Plaid that is on my list! Ill link it HERE! Let me know if your like these quick “How I Styled” Post? Comment Below!
I Styles it with a tunic-length top from Target. Its the perfect Peek-a-boo length and gives that preppy feel I like!
I wanted to show case a structured DKNY tote to edge it up a bit (linked a Similar style). A statement handbag is in huge demand this Fall, but it dose not have to break the budget! Purchase what best suits your budget…just take a look at whats trending and be inspired by that look. The DKNY Logo on a tote bag gives the perfect balance of Sporty and chic! I also added simple pair of Heals from Just Fab. Classic pumps are ALWAYS in style! Being CLASSIC is always in style too! Don’t let Fast-Fashion tell you otherwise!
As far as small accessories, I added a pair of Sunnies from and a Fabric knotted headband from Target! Statement headbands are POPPING for the fall! The bulkier the better with this trend! Also explore fancy and funky hair clips and pins! Be creative!
I also showed a Flat option with the Rumi Mule in a luxe silk-spun Marigold fabric from Sam Edeman! A statement flat will substitute those times where heals are not an option. Add a pop of color or chose a few pair with over-the-top embellishments such as feathers, fur or rhinestones! Make a statement hunny!!!
Thank you dolls for checking out my quick outfit post! I LOVE a good Blazer for the Fall! I even look forward to doing some thrifting for some menswear blazers! Thank GOD i’m in a new building that isn’t always hot, so I feel comfortable layering with some of the chic Blazers in my collection. I will be mixing in affordable fashion with whats in my closet…NO CLOTHES LEFT BEHIND!! Love You Dolls! :-*
Photographer: Russell Gilliam of Ingenious Images
Hey Luxe Babes! I wanted to pop on the Blog and show you 3 great Denim options from Royalty For Me! The one think they have in common is they all have “Ankle” (Or Hem if you rather) detail! I really don’t want to ramble, So lets get to it!
WOMEN PLUS SIZE ANKLET WITH SIDE LEG ZIPPER
This, By Far was my favorite pair! It the rise was perfect, it had a built in Tummy Control Panel and zipper detail at the ankle! I paired it with that Boohoo Satin Animal print oversized blouse (Which should should be familiar…if not imma need you to check out my previous blog post!) and a pair of fuchsia linen mules from JustFab! This look is perfect for hanging out with the girls and grabbing a bite to eat…and still look chic!
The hem on these jeans are are super edgy and cute! I caution you, these have a lower rise, so make sure your ok with that before ordering! I Paired them with a Tee Shirt from Je T’aime Tee shirt and a Super cute pair of white woven Mules from….wait or it…Walmart! The Linen tie blazer if from Lane Bryant (Purchased at Marshalls for a STEAL! last summer!) and that cute Dasein Patent Faux Leather Barrel Satchel w/ Shoulder Strap that I purchased from Evine Live!
Ok…these have a classic cuff look in a medium rinse. It has mild distressing, which I Love. The Cuff is adjustable, which means you can adjust to whatever look you want…even a straight leg! I paired this look with my “Honey” Tee from Shien and my Lauren Conrad slides Past season from Kohls and that straw bag from walmart. My hair is tied up in a curly messy pony with a colorful scarf that was gifted to me years go, some gold hoops and my famous sunnies (That i wear ALL THE TIME!! so if a sunglass company wants to sponsor me…lets do this!!! LOL!)
Thank you Babes for stopping by! I hope you like my Royalty for Me Picks this month! If you want to see more looks that I have done with them, head over to my Instagram @LuxePlusLifeBlog If you liked any of these styles, please head on over to Royalty For Me’s website, and use the codeh RFM25 to save 25% off your order! (This excludes the $19.99 and under selection)
Till next time dolls!
Hey Luxe Babes!! I Know, I know….Its been a minute. BUT imma spare you the excuses, cause I’M BACK, and Betta then eva! LOL!
Unless you’ve been hiding under a rock, you know that Lane Bryant has launched a collection with Rochelle Johnson from the popular blog BeautiCurve! She has designed some super cute dresses and I just had to get my hands on at least one! I chose the Animal Print Maxi Dress, and I Love it!!! I chose this one because its flattering, Leopard Print is a great timeless neutral, and It simply wont be sitting in my closet! I created 4 looks that would take you through your day! So LegggggGO!
Summer Office Chic!
I wanted to style the dress, which is already work appropriate, but add a pop of color for the Summer time! I Paired it with a Teal Thrifted Lane Bryant Blazer and Lane Bryant Blocked heal sandal. (Alternative pieces are linked!) I think this makes a very chic, professional look! Of course, a simple black pump would work perfectly for a more conservative office! You could even exchange the blazer for a simple cardigan…the options are endless!
Dresses and Sneakers Oh My!
So…I, have not fully jumped on the “Fancy Dress and sneakers” bandwagon. It gives be serious “office mom wears sneakers when she rides the train/bus home” vibes! LOL! But as we progress more into his trend, I think I could jump on board by staying with the more casual, sleek sneaker variety. The bulky sneaker look is not for me! But SIS!! If you like it chunky…DO YOU BOO! My trusty Adidas saved the day! I love the White and Black sporty contrast of the Adidas paired with this flowey animal print frock! And I added a chic fanny pack (From GAP, Poshed from Poshmark) to top this look off! And oh! Don’t forget my Fave Sunnies from Target!
Pass Me my Mimosa! #BrunchReady
Ok…This look is simple, but effective! It’s perfect for brunch with the girls outfit and you know I love some good convo over Brunch!Pass the french toast and Mimosas dahling! LOL! I added a belt to cinch in my waist and a simple pair of Tory Burch Sandals. For a pop of color, I added this tangerine Time and True Circle Straw tote to brighten things up! I Linked the online link, but they had NONE of the colors that were in store, which was tangerine, Black and Tan. Like, Come on Wally World! In tring to share your treasures!!
Summer Dinner and Cocktails on the Roof-top!
So, I literally saved the best for last! I really loved how you can take a great staple piece in your wardrobe and transform it in something new! I Layered ANOTHER Animal print top over the dress. I know…it seems like Animal print overload! BUT the key is SCALE when mixing prints! Im my case, the print itself was very similar. The Leopard Print Blouse from BooHoo had a much larger print, with a touch green that complimented it perfectly! Then I chose a green chunky green heal that pulled that green out of the blouse (Heals no longer available…I linked a similar color from JustFab!) Then..I was like…lets take it up a notch! #CardieBReferance lol! I added another complimentary pop of the color orange! This oh-so-cute Dasein Patent Faux Leather Barrel Satchel from Evine Live was the perfect addition and added a sense of glam and shine! And the Sunnies just simply say Slay SIS! SLAY! This Look makes me want to have drinks at one of Atlanta’s many roof-top restaurants!
Babe!?!? Let’s Talk!
That last look…girl…#IssaLook!!! Ha!!!
Well…I thank you for visiting me today! So girl…you gotta tell me…which outfit is your favorite? If you didn’t get any of the dresses from the Beauti Curve line…girl….RUN!! Rochell put her magical curvy fairy dust on this collection and said “Ok Yall…Get a dress and be GREAT!” lol! The dresses are all flattering in gorgeous prints and silhouettes! You Need one Babe!
Till Next time Luxe Babes!
Hi Luxe Babes!
I wanted to share with you a new staple in your wardrobe! They are a pair of Faux Leather Leggings from DivaLux Boutique! These Faux- Leather leggings are such a versatile piece that can take you from a super casual day of running errands, shopping and brunch for those Christmas gifts or a Festive Holiday party! So I’m not going to waist any of your time, and show you 3 ways to wear these leggings that will have your comfortable and ready for the holidays! make sure you read to the end so you can score a sweet Holiday treat!
Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells…Run Errands While we SLAY!!!!
Pair your Faux- Leather leggings with your Favorite hoodie, sneakers and top off with a Luxe looking coat for a effortless athleisure look! I chose my go-to Adidas Hoodie and sneakers. Topped it off with my Lane Bryant coat (Past season…but here’s a pretty alternative!) and a sophisticated “For Business or For Pleasure” bag from ShoeDazzle!
The weather outside is frightful, But Shopping and Brunch is soooo Delightful!
Weather your wrapping up your holiday shopping or having brunch with the girls, these leggings will keep you comfortable and ready for a long day in these streets! I paired them with a pair of Comfort View Flat Over-The Knee Boots, a black tank top and a super Soft Cardigan from Marshall’s! This look was topped off with a gray Jeweled Beret (Borrowed from my girl Rhonda <<<Follow Her! She’s Awesome!!) and same bag! They were the perfect additions to complete this look!
I really CAN SLAY!! Baby It’s cold outside!
Holiday parties are almost inevitable! Don’t want to wear a dress? I got you boo! Pair….yeah you guessed it…the same Faux-Leather leggings with a cute top and some fancy heals or boots for a sleek, sophisticated look! Toss that Diva coat over your shoulders and let the party begin! (Pssstttt!! Top was a past season find from Exquisit Pink Boutique , here is s similar Dress/TOP AND you can save 15% off your purchase with the Code “Lux”) The Green Velvet Bryce Glam Platform are surprisingly past Season BUT THEY BROUGHT THEM BACK FOR THIS SEASON!!! I was Shooketh! LOL! The Lane Bryant coat topped it off!! And the shoes! (Yeah…I have a lot of stuff in my closet Dolls….but you already know that! LOL!
So from errand running realness to Holiday party Slays, these fabulous legging have you covered! Please don’t forget to check out DivaLux for all your DIVA Needs! Visit their site and use a special coupon code “LuxePlus10” and save 10% off your purchase!! SCORE!!! They have lots of pretty dress options for the holidays (And everyday….) as well as separates and accessories!
Meet me in the comments below and tell me what’s your favorite look!!!
Till next time Luxe Babes!
Hey Luxe Babes! I wanted to show you how to make inexpensive floral accent arrangements. I used cotton balls to keep them from shifting as much, solely because I wanted it to be non-permanent in case i wanted to do a quick color change. You could spend another dollar or so and hot glue a foam base to stick your flowers in. I find that its not necessary for smaller arrangements, but its totally an option! So here’s a quick pictorial on how to make this cute little glam baby! (Flower Bunch and Mercury glass container came from Walmart ) If you decide to try this, please tag me in a photo!! (All my social media info is on the blogs main page!????) I constructed D.I.Y for Vanessa West, my Real Estate Agent. Visit her Facebook page for more information on Home buying, budgeting and Home related tips! Till next time Luxe Babes!???? Xoxo Stephanie
You know…as i sit here taking hella responsibility for my life, I feel like it means nothing if I don’t share how I feel. I mean…there might be one or two…maybe 3 people out there who feel like a total failure! I CANT be the only one. DISCLAIMER: I made decisions and am very much accountable for my mistakes: Most of you get it…the rest of you can F-Off! Yeah….I said it. AND all my 2 Broke Girls Pics were brought to you by a generic Google search, I dont own any of there photos…and neither did they! BOOM! Yes…I know (Really deep within) that everything happens for a reason. I know that the Self-help gurus tell us to “Stay Positive!!!” and “Be the change you need in your life!”. AND I know that this blog post is basically a pity party and it might be a table for one. I TOTALLY understand of you want to exit stage right. (Wait…at least go and read one of my other fashion post…don’s bail out on me all together…damn). So at this point, your probably like STEPHANIE!!?? WTH is wrong with you? Ok…ok! Well Imma make you a quick list so I don’t waist any on your time! 1) I am broke. I have spent soooooo much that I have miserably failed financially. If you saw my credit report and my budget, you would probably just me harshly. 2) Im STILL Single after over a year out of my relationship (Keep reading and you will probably know why…) 3) Im still Fat. (Its ok to be fat…Its NOT okay to not be happy in your body. YES I can work with what I have…but I don’t want to!) 4) I have to work EXTRA hard to maintain my home space. Its not natural for things to be Pintrest and Instagram ready as all times. Sometimes my house is a wreck! (Not Nasty as in dirty… Just Messy and sometimes un-organized) 5) I am sooooo unhappy with my job. (I’m off this weekend and have anxiety about going in Monday) 6) I have SEVERAL projects that I am behind on. I was making an honest attempt to schedule and plan for my Collabs BUT life and ME got in the freekin way! I’m obsessing about 1-5 which is getting in the way of productivity!) 7) I feel like I’m looking old…and feeling that way as well. 8) I have NO SOCIAL LIFE!! Its Work Home Work Home WORK HOME And Work at Home! 10) I often feel very alone. Because I don’t let my feelings out a lot, they stack up and I sometimes feel like no one really gets how I feel. 11) Im questioning my pescatarian Lifestyle… it could just be stress…but I would love anything more in life then a 20 Pc Hot with Lemon pepper sprinkles and Spinach Chicken Alfredo Pizza form Papa Johns! 12) I’m on the verge on just saying F$&K IT!! I’m just over it. So….I would like to make you all happy (Maybe I should have added a #13…Making everyone else happy to keep the peace….hummmm) by saying I am going to take all these frustrations and turn them into motivation to make thing better!!! (((INSERT big old cheezy face equipped with open eyes and fake smile….and 2 thumbs up!))). But honestly…im not there yet. (AND my Papa Johns Cart is still in tact…with my Discover card Payment info filled in…all I need to do is press “Submit Order”) I sent a chat to my lovely neice…she was loss or words. But when someone as I feels like this, theres nothing really to say, Sometimes we dont need a pep talk. We don’t want “Tough Love”. We just need to be. Unfortunatly, my mind spinns like this often…sometimes more rapidly then others. Sometimes I cry so much I cant catch my breath. Sometimes I have to walk into work with my head down because my eyes are swolen and red, only to have to turn on “Joyful Manager Stephanie”. Its tiring. Its daunting, Its my life.
Now that I have laid it all out here…I hope that it dosent turn into a bash me session. I HOPE someone reads this and knows that the feelings they have ARE VALID. They are REAL. They are ACCEPTABLE. The only lesson I want to give you is to keep pushing through it. Its how you react to this clusterfuck of feelings. We can have them….but we cant bathe in them for long.
Will Life still trow you and I curve balls??? Absofreekenlutly! But I have to keep practicing how to keep moving forward! Thats the key…Keep practicing on being better then 5 mins ago. Keep practicing on how to learn from each mistake and know mistakes that keep repeating are habbits! Bad Habbits, unlike promises, are meant to be broken. Practice makes perfect (Well…not perfect…but closer to bad bitch status) In case no one has told you today, I LOVE YOU!!! TTYS Luxe Babes! xoxo ~Stephanie
Ok you guys…imma keep this post sweet and simple…because i know your going to want to fix a cocktail afterwards. (Or…go grab one right now…go ahead! I’ll wait…????????????????????????????????????????) One of my best friends (and my photographer) Russell Gilliam from Ingenious Images Photography ) has a bar. And when I say bar… I mean a black metal bookshelf with his bottles and bitters sitting in it! Lol! Yeah…I had a rough draft to begin with…Wanna see what it looked like? Here you go! Yup…bottles on a shelf. Just like that. Soooo….step one, clear off the shelves! My goal was to convert this bookshelf to a polished, yet rustic manly bar for my friend! He hustles super hard and deserves to come home to a nice space to relax! Step 1: Clear it off! Start with a blank surface…clean it, and get rid of any ovious issues….touch up any surface flaws at this point. Step 2: Find your base piece and build around it! I found this rustic metal tray and knew it was perfect! Its copper and matte grat surfaced metal with rustib rope detail! It was $17.99 from AtHome (Formally Garden Ridge) Step 3: Add a Seasonal Element. I had a Faux Fur wine holder of which i inserted a clear vase (At Home)…You will see in later photos i added some seasonal red poinsettias! I will get some other flowers as the season changes. Step#4 Begin to add your choice of Barware! We chose copper tones mixed with clear glass and crystal textures. Wine Holder: unknown Decantor: At Home – 3pc Copper Shaker Set: Bloomingdales – Stand Up Corkscrew: Target (Flowers i told you about! Add a few bottles and accent pieces for a cozy Bar esthetic…) – “R” Coasters: At Home Cement and Copper Handle holder: $3.99 from At Home – Wine Glasses (already owned) (Close up of Center) Step 5: Load up the Liquor!! I organize by type and bottle height. I took all his mixers and tucked them away into a large Box and centered on the bottom shelves anchored by some Antique Beer Mugs he was gifted. (Hide the unnecessary stuff…) (Oraganize by Type/ Bottle Height) (Feature whats important) The top shelve is for featuring his better baller glasses, moscow mule copper mugs and a small basket for extra small accesories (and tea-lights for the candle holder). Step 6: Tie the look into the wall. I felt the space needed dimension! I added these rustic framed mirriors (Set of 3/ $12.99 from At Home) in a staggered pattern. It added a classy look to the whole look! I was super happy with them! Who knew $13 would give such look?!?! So, here is the final look!! I truly love the finished product?? What do you think?? Thank you for going through the process with me! Russell loved it and so do I! Cheers to the freekin New Year luvs!! Live your best Luxe Life! Xoxo -Steph
My girl Paris (yes! Mt bathroom is a girl…and has a name! Duh!) has a secret! She is petite with a chic black and white Parisian flair! But… …Paris has a secret!!! Under her white little trench coat (i.e cabinet) is a HOT MESS CHILE!! I felt Paris needed an intervention (trust me..there was more to this mess then the pic shows…i wasnt going to air out ALL her dirty laundry! Thats not lady like! I will say…she has too much hair stuff…lol! Tip number one empty the entire cabinet and get rid of the extra! Its easy to throw random stuff under the petticoat…lol! Now…for your guest powder room, keep it simple. Keep extra tissue, lotion, hand soap and other items you would like NOT to have to ask for. Like feminine products for lady guest and baby wipes to freshin up. Now…this isnt my final product, but like me, you can revamp on yiur budget! My bathroom serves as a powder room and my sometimes master bath (my big master bathroom is upstaires in my Glam Loft) Which brings me to Tip number 2! Use everyday items you already have to organize. A good idea is to use magazine holders to make the unsigtly be unseen! Catorgorize your items in each holder (see photo above) and place in cabinet tall side faced out. I will end up replacing all of mine with 2 matching boxs for the hair care and beauty items. I used a simple shoe box for combs/Brushes and a black Basket for larger products. Not a huge change…but very simple! Heres the Final (well…till me and Paris go shopping again) product! Soo….what do you think??? Its not perfect…but a great start! I will definitely update you guys on what i change! Paris and I have a few things up our sleeve! Till next time, Be Luxe…be Fabulous! XOXO???? -Stephanie