In all Seriousness
My life has been a tad bit complicated…nothing that I can ever seem to eloquently express.
I, as many people, paint a smile in my face to deal with the day to day. The more I do this I trick myself into thinking…hoping…praying all will be ok.
There are days when anguish covers me and im internally fighting. I OFTEN Laugh to keep from crying.
BOTTOM LINE is that I used to feel bad about feeling my feelings…and very much ashamed to express them. People who don’t know me know me think I have it all together…people whom I allow myself voluranabilty…know that I’m constantly… trying to mend myself.
They think they know all that is there to know, but I find it hard to express my full self. To know what to disclose and what is not worth it…because they wouldn’t understand anyway…right?
These things make you feel crazy!
How dare I struggle with anxiety and stress and OCD AND procrastination/Laziness? And Stephanie…if you know these things are your “issues” …why don’t you just fix them?
Girl..you have a job…your own home…a car…food to eat (sometimes…too much!)
I dont write these words for sympathy…I write these words AS THERAPY…and so my sisters out here know you are not alone!
This is my answer to all the “if you ever need to talk girl!!” End of fluffy conversations that a lot of us clichely add when we depart.
So If you you want to talk…comment below. I’m here with you sis…..NOW!
Stay Luxe…while plus.. and Live Life!
Hey Luxe Babes and Gents
This isn’t going to be a fashion post…I mean, If your reading this…I know you are a true follower…or forgot to unfollow…lol!
DISCLAIMER: This Post may not be the most heavily edited…I’m kinda in my feelings about my life…and Im leaving out a lot…probably TONS of additional information for you to really connect the dots. Im just scratching the surface…not ready to be completely raw…yet. So Forgive my candidness and scatter babbling…but typing this helps turn tragedy into tears and tears to therapy. I need this…more then you ever know.
This is going to be more of a “Lets talk abt the invisible Elephant in the Room” type of post. My Feeling on life…The sadness in mine. My instagram followers know that I try to always be “real” to a certain degree. This is mainly because I see the beauty and the tragedy of what social media can indirectly do to out mental state! Social media is beneficial in a lot of ways…but I can see and have been subjected to its flaws. (Humor and whittness included…not sold separately)
If we don’t consciously exercise our self-awareness muscle, we might never realize how much the, sometimes hours, of mindless scrolling can affect the way we think about ourselves and our lives. There are some of us who think we are too fat, too thin…too short or too tall! Some of that think that they should have been married by now…or have been a mother of at least one child…Or that they have one kid too many, Some of us think that if we are single, we are broken…or that if our home don’t look immaculate 24/7 …we simply don’t and will never have it together!
Some of us think we are so behind the curve in finances if we cant just go to the chanel store and purchase that Buttery Calf skin leather bag we have always dreamed of. But I want you guys to do is take a deep breath and take other peoples lives with a grain of salt. Yes! There are some people out there who literally have saved and worked their ass off to get what they have…and that’s awesome!! Inspiring even! But You will probably never know just the amount of work and sacrifice they put in to get what they have!
But then…there are others, who wear the best of the best…drive the sleekest cars…live in the poshest of neighborhoods and are in debt up to their ears!!
If they loos their job…ISSA WRAP! And the Jone’s aren’t handing out personal loans to help us out when our finances are going down the drain!
I lived out of my means for a long while. Now, I wasn’t out here on my way less then 6 Figure Salary buying Audi’s and dropping thousands on Chanel bags and eating lobster and caviar as a Bi-Weekly treat. But I was using credit cards to create a life I wanted in order to feel “Normal”. It is indeed…toxic.
You see…My normal was not being “Extra” all the time, It was being able to buy extras when I wanted them and not having to be drilling down my checking account to see if I could afford it. It started out (Post buying my home 3 years ago” Purchasing (Charging) and paying off every month. Then I became Lax…The payments got lower (Less then the Balance) and the Balances became higher, Life slooooooowly creeped up on me.
Long story short…I could no longer breathe anymore. I got anxious when the phone rang…or I checked my mail. It was hard…tons of tears and a LOT of me hiding…because I could not let my family know how I screwed up. I could never reach out to them and ask for a bail out…not prideful…its just not a thing with my family. We have an unspoken “Dont talk abt out unless its critical” clause… And it would never be criticle enough for me too seek help from them (Other then the little advice from my Sister and BIL…but that’s it) I’m NOT here to give financial advice on what to do…BUT I will say that the feeling of Financial suffocation is an Awful, emotional feeling. Am I completely healed of this demon? I would love to say yes…but I know I’m not. I’m a little more cautious. I use my Debit card for most things these days…but I still have that overspending bug. So I have to reel it in when I feel out of control. Its like a eating disorder…but with money!
The same goes for my relationships….my Weight…my feelings of insecurity and “Will I Always be alone???”. We ALL have things that we are feeling that weighs on us. I know I have some depression…and anxiety. I HATE the weight i’m at…yet I’m tired of dieting. I wish I was “Body Positive” and Fat and Happy!” BUT IM NOT. I don’t Love my body at this weight…and neither do I feel Healthy at this weight (Which is the #1 thing I want to do…feel better!) It’s a thing! An in the Plus-Size community, I feel like we lack HONEST conversations about what we are accepting in our lives. (And Im NOT speaking to people who have legit medical illnesses and such…or who TRUELY just like being heavy…and that is Far and few…weather we want to admit it or not. At least im honest with myself!
“Your Soooo Pretty Stephanie! I cant believe you dont at least have a boyfriend!?!!?” I’m an introvert who just wants to be with someone who like to chill at home…or snuggle on roof tops across atlanta! LOL! (Do Yall realize how hard that is to find?? LOL!) To be blatantly honest…I’m not sure I am at the right place in my Mental health to allow someone in my space to love me! Would I believe “him” if he complimented me? Is he really interested in getting to know me or is he just trying to hit it? (Yes…at 40…this is still a thing!” . Will he truly accept all of me (In my John Legend voice) and all my flaws?? I secretly done even believe John Legends words…cause Crissy is a whole snack and her flaws would be my “After” even after baring 2 children and aging! Im just being real…lmao! (And I Love Crissy T! IJS!)
So to get to the point of the point of the point…Everyone’s story isn’t what you think. Social media…your co-workers and your neighbors…don’t always believe what you see or hear! I mean…some of your friends are out here renting MK Bags from rent-a center! Did you know that was a thing? Yeah…your welcome. (And if they are renting MK Bags…they are WAY behind SIS! If imma go broke or rent a bag…It’s gonna read Chanel, Hermes or Bottega… SOMETHING of substance! lol!
I often sit and Cry (I told yall I had bouts of depression) abt all the mistakes I made…the reflection in the mirror…the thought about loosing what little looks I had left after turning 40. And although I know it isn’t the healthiest way of coping…its ok to cry sometimes. I know yall want me to plus in 73 motivational quotes about how you are a boss, how you are a strong (Insert whatever you identify with…) woman, and how you need to create the life you want!! But I’m not going to. Although having mantras are not a bad idea… faith without work is DEAD. Some of the work includes sharing so your fellow woman does not feel alone…being REAL sometimes…not only sharing the highlight REEL (See what I did there? :::Eye Wink::) , and working on YOU at your own pace.
Love you guys…whoever takes the time to read this…you are the best.
Hey Luxe Babes!
September 23rd was the first day of Autumn and in Atlanta we have lows of 63 degrees and highs of 94 IN THE SAME DAY!!!! (Insert hand clap emojis!) So I know some of you ladies and gents are prepping for Fall, but still feeling the heat! This wont be a super long post, but I want to show you 3 Fall transition dresses from BOOHOO that are GREAT for this warm “Fall” weather, and will having you look the part AND still be weather appropriate!
My First look is this Versace print inspired Chain Printed Shirt Dress ! It is such a Hot Girl Fall look…its both Edgy and Glam and I LOVE IT!!! This shirt dress could easily wear it as a topper for a pair of Leather leggings or even a pair of wide-leg trousers or jeans! Add a tank top or even a belt to complete the look! I Love a piece you can wear Multiple ways! (If you want me to style this more ways, comment below! I Paired it with a pair of Red Vince Camuto Healed sandals (QVC I think…) and a Red Ralph Lauren Cross body (Marshalls)!
The Second look is a nod to Parisian fashion, and this just happens too be Paris Fashion week! I can totally see me walking the streets of Paris, looking for the next spot to eat a buttery Croissant! LOL! So, This ruffled wrap dress is in a super cute forest green and has white polka dots! Its called the Spotty Wrap Skater Dress), and INDEED it shows a little leg! I paired this dress with a Italian Bag from Marshalls. A Golden Yellow Beret from JustFAB ( <<Click here for a discount on your first order) I also wore a cute pair of White Loafers from Poshmark! I love the Mood this look gives and its comfortable and easy! When it cools down, pair this look with a pair if Tan or brown over the knee boots and maybe a Tan poncho or a classic trench!
The 3rd look was this SUPER pretty and feminine Floral Satin ruffle wrap dress! I felt amazing in this dress! I always suggest having a go-to wrap style dress for every season! You WONT be dissapointed! This dress hit my curves in just the right way. I Paired this dress with a pair of SUPER CUTE White booties from :::GASP::: Walmart Time @ True! Walmart is KILLING the Fashion game lately! I think I will find a dope pair of Earth-toned snake-print boots and a leather jacket to pull this look together for colder weather!
Thank You for stopping by today! What was your favorite dress from BooHoo? Comment below!
I think I honestly cant decide! Each on has such a different vibe!
And as always! Stay Beautifully You!
Photographer: Russell Gilliam from Ingenious Images (He’s Awesome! Check him out!
Hello Luxe Babes!
I want to stop in because I never got a chance to share on of my favorite blazer from LOFT! Its is a Navy double breasted blazer that feels so nice on the body. It is sold out, unfortunately, but there is another one in a gorgeous Glen Plaid that is on my list! Ill link it HERE! Let me know if your like these quick “How I Styled” Post? Comment Below!
I Styles it with a tunic-length top from Target. Its the perfect Peek-a-boo length and gives that preppy feel I like!
I wanted to show case a structured DKNY tote to edge it up a bit (linked a Similar style). A statement handbag is in huge demand this Fall, but it dose not have to break the budget! Purchase what best suits your budget…just take a look at whats trending and be inspired by that look. The DKNY Logo on a tote bag gives the perfect balance of Sporty and chic! I also added simple pair of Heals from Just Fab. Classic pumps are ALWAYS in style! Being CLASSIC is always in style too! Don’t let Fast-Fashion tell you otherwise!
As far as small accessories, I added a pair of Sunnies from and a Fabric knotted headband from Target! Statement headbands are POPPING for the fall! The bulkier the better with this trend! Also explore fancy and funky hair clips and pins! Be creative!
I also showed a Flat option with the Rumi Mule in a luxe silk-spun Marigold fabric from Sam Edeman! A statement flat will substitute those times where heals are not an option. Add a pop of color or chose a few pair with over-the-top embellishments such as feathers, fur or rhinestones! Make a statement hunny!!!
Thank you dolls for checking out my quick outfit post! I LOVE a good Blazer for the Fall! I even look forward to doing some thrifting for some menswear blazers! Thank GOD i’m in a new building that isn’t always hot, so I feel comfortable layering with some of the chic Blazers in my collection. I will be mixing in affordable fashion with whats in my closet…NO CLOTHES LEFT BEHIND!! Love You Dolls! :-*
Photographer: Russell Gilliam of Ingenious Images
Hello Dolls and Gents!!
So! Those who know me, or have scrolled through my Instagram, knows that I have a mild obsession with leopard print! Its funny, I always pick on my girl Rhonda (from www.LifeByRhonda.com ) about her obsession with this print, but secretly I’m celebrating the fact that I have a friend who knows that this print is CLASSIC AND WILL NEVER DIE!!! :::insert hand clapping emogies ::: LOL!
Anyway! I was in Walmart making a quick purchase before work…and when I mean quick, I mean I was going to be late for work if it took more then 10 mins! As I dashed through the store to grab my item, in the corner of my eye…I saw a dress! I was like OK WALLY WORLD! THIS WILL BE A LOOK!! Dammit Stephanie!!! Focus!! I had to go!
Long story short: I went to Walmart after I got off that night and thank God they had my Size! It was late….so all I needed it to do is Fit! Its Did and now here to show you about this dress!
The Dress is from Time and Tru and is in the iconic leopard print! It has a peasant Boho feel and is super transitional! You can wear this dress now into winter with no problem! So great fro warm days and cool nights!! Let me shut up and show you the dress!!!
I immediately knew i wanted a Rocker Chic vibe when styling this dress! I paired the dress with the “Jenna” Studded bootie from JustFab, my Suede Fringe bag from Vince Camuto and a simple quilted watch I picked up from Burlington (Listen… I needed a watch I could wear to work and I wouldn’t hurt anyone if it got damaged…IJS) Oh! And bog ole round shades! I have no idea where they are from…Im Assuming Target…cause I have officially forwarded my mail there…lmao! #PostOfficeDeclined
I love pairing a studded bootie to toughen up a look! It just compliments the leopard print…and the fringe gives it a rock star vibe! A Leather Moto jacket would look BOMB with this look in the colder months! Add some tights and some knee-high or combat boots would look perfect!
To soften the look…add a feminine cross-body bag or a tote, a pair a fabric-upper pair of Over-the-knee/Thigh High boots and a long, soft Tan Cardigan!
If you guys want me to do a look-book on ways to style this dress, let me know in the comments below!
Thank you guys for checking out my new favorite dress! LOL! It’s super versatile and makes an awesome transitional piece for this Fall! I always tell people not to sleep on Walmart! They often have some cute stuff, specially the Time and Tru Line & Terra and Sky! Oh! I purchased a size XXL and I wear a size 18/20 in Plus. This dress didn’t come in plus, but this definitely shows how somethings you just need to try things on! I will say, if you wear a bra larger then a 40H…Issa no for you dawg! LOL! And my arms barely made the cut! Another fact is..I look better then the Model! The right body and accessories make an outfit hunni!!
Till next time Luxe Babes and Gents!
Well Hello Luxe Babes!
I wanted to drop a few looks for you guys since Valentine’s day is just around the corner! I cented the looks around a closet staple we all have (Or should have…wink Wink!), the Little Black dress! I will refer to this as the “LBD” through out this post So I’m not going to smother you with my witty commentary hugs and my sarcastic kisses Although…I know you like it…lol…Lets get to it! Oh!! And there is a surprise at the end of this post…so keep reading!
First Off…lets talk about this LBD!
The LBD…or shall I say LBS (Little Black Slip) is from Sonsee! They are an awesome company that has mastered the art of comfortable shapewear. They have a vas selection or under garments to suit your everyday needs. I’m even wearing their shapewear under this dress! Lets get back to the dress! Here is a description from the Site:
“A must-have wardrobe essential. This long sleeve slip is made to support your body and every curve with stretch fabric that’s flattering and comfortable…but lightweight fabric that won’t overheat. If you’re a traveller, or need something that works in every climate, make this slip your new best friend. Pair it with tights of any denier, boots or sandals.”
So here is me (A real Body…) in the Slip/dress! I am not what is deemed by society the perfect Plus Size body. I have plenty of roles and a tummy! I do have on the light Shapewear from Sonsee as well. And YES, and there are still some rolls left! BUT this keeps me from “Jiggling” as I move throughout my day! And it’s super Comfy! I’ll also post a pic of those below. Sonsee has everything from Hosery to Day-Bras to Shapewear! Check them out!
Running Morning Errands Cuteness!
Its Valentines Day morning…you have to take the kids to school, run a few errands or just want to run out to grab some coffee. I got you boo! An yes, your LBD can come along for the ride! I decided to layer this look by adding an oversized xersion Long-sleeve Tee that I knotted in the front to take away some of the volume. I topped that off with a dope Camo jacket from JustFab . I accessorized with my Go-to Adidas and my Arcadia Tote.
Casual Lunch with the Girls (Or that guy…)!
So you and the girls decided to go out for lunch (Or your Boo, or just you…Hunni…I don’t know your life!lol!) and you want a casual look that says “Im Edgy but i have a girly romantic side too”. This look will do the trick. Same LBD, I paired it with a pair of sneakers (Sold Out, bur here is a similar pair) from Justfab. The jacket if from Kate and Mallory from Evine (I linked an alternative, since this style is sold out as well!). The Clear CrossBody bag is from JustFab! The inside is a cute clutch I had from awhile back, but if you want to keep your contents hidden (Which I suggest…), I would use cure Makeup bags or clutches that compliment the look your rocking to hold your contents.
I had to bring you a sophisticated look for you guys! I Paired our LBD with a Chic Gray Kimono Sweater from Target (Click HERE for an alternative! I Just bought this a month ago, you might still be able to find it in stores). The Shoes and the clutch are from Just Fab (Alternatives Linked). You will feel put together and chic for your dinner date…and the subtle pops of blush will add just the right touch or romance!
Ok Luxe Babes! Are you ready for a Coupon code!!! I See you Lookin like Yaaaassss!!!
Sonsee* was generous enough to give me a $20.00 off coupon code! YES! $20 off you entire purchase! THAT’S A STILL PEOPLE!! Use the code “LUXE20″ and go an purchase the most comfortable Intimates that are out there! You will feel amazing! CLICK HERE TO START SHOPPING!!!
Comment below and let me know which V-Day look was your Favorite! Remember that you don’t need a Beau… Just DRESS FOR YOU!!
Till Next Time Luxe Babes!
*(Note, this is not a sponsored post, Sonsee was generous to give me a coupon code upon request! Thank you again to Sonsee for your generosity!)
Hello Luxe Babes!
I know your like…what is happening?? Where are all the post?
Well…I switched platforms! I switched from WIX to WordPress.org (Hosted by DreamHost).I felt like I wasn’t having any luck attracting new readers on WIX and wasn’t as searchable as well. It was recommended that I move my Domain to WordPress.org because I still would have creative freedom AND It works better with Googles algorithm.
But ANYWAY! I have not yet figured out how to move anything from my WIX site. (If you know something I don’t know…help a sister out!)
So Please, re-subscribe and share!
Ill get these post moved here as soon as I can Luvs!
Till Next Time Luxe Babes!